The Charming Tyrants

The Charming Tyrants

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God didn't promise days without pain, laughter without sorrow, sun without rain, but He did promise strength for the day, comfort for the tears and light for the way. - Anon

Sunday, April 10, 2011

Let Them Eat Cake

I'm pretty sure everyone has been to a wedding where the lovely couple, perfectly groomed and dressed up in their finest, feed each other the first slice from their wedding cake. The perfect ending to a perfect day. At least it's supposed to be.

The couple together cut the cake, put a slice on a plate and then in turn feed each other a bite, only they don't always do it kindly or gently or respectfully. Instead, with their friends egging them on, they shove that little bite of cake into each others mouth, pushing it down their gullet as if they are trying to push a watermelon through a straw. And everybody laughs. If you have not witnessed this in person then certainly you have seen it on "America's Funniest Home Videos". Sometimes the bride or the groom is unsuspecting of the impending smear and will get upset and decide that in revenge they are going to throw the cake at their partner or spread it all over their face in which a food fight ensues. And still everybody laughs.

Well, everybody but me. It has always bugged me when couples do this. I don't believe the first act together of their married life that these two people who say they love each other should be one of aggression and disrespect. I mean these two people are planning to spend the rest of their lives together (hopefully) and why would you want to start out with a bitter taste in your mouth, one of resentment and anger. Not only that but think of all the money that was spent to make their wedding day perfect. The brides gown, her hair, her make-up, her manicure and pedicure, not to mention the grooms suit or tuxedo, which has probably been rented. A wedding cake alone can cost several hundred dollars or more. So if you are getting married please think before you act, those people who are laughing and egging you on aren't the ones with cake on their face or in their hair or staining their clothes. Or if you know someone who is getting married, remind them to be respectful of one another.

In conclusion, I just want to say that I am so proud of my nephew and his beautiful bride when at their wedding last month the cutting of their wedding cake did not turn into a food fight.

I love you guys!

Aunt Syd


jaxbishop said...

i couldn't agree with you more!

togetherforgood said...

My husband and I did some cake smearing at our wedding. Not a full-on food fight, and no expensive items were ruined in the process. Honestly, I think so much depends on the couple. My husband and I laugh and tease all the time, and it would have been out of character for us to start our marriage without a little bit of laughter and silliness too. :)

The Farmer Files said...

Beautiful. We did not smear cake at our wedding. We never talked about it; my hubs is a thinker, not too much of a talker. But he is truly thoughtful...and he probably thought he did not want to ruin my face. ;) Tonight I am going to have a talk with my 6yo and 4yo about this for their big day. We are going to a wedding in May so it should be very fresh for them. ;)

L said...

I totally agree! There was no cake smearing at my wedding! I was actually at a Baptist wedding where the couple took communion after being announced man and wife. I thought it was a lovely thing to do as their first act of husband and wife.

Nicole said...

Amen!!! I completely agree! Funny irony, the word verification for my comment is "snash." Enjoy your week! I have 3 papers and 1 more final to go before I can feel "normal" again! For now, I'm trying to catch up on a few blogs I've neglected. :)

Annette said...

Cake smashing at a wedding has always driven me crazy too! Hey, I haven't forgotten about your dish, I'm planning on dropping it off tomorrow. ☺

Sara said...

Thank You!! I absolutely agree with this. I HATE it when couple do this. I actually remember hearing a statistic once that couples who engage in "cake smashing" are more likely to end up divorced than those who don't. Again, it boils down to true respect and admiration of one another.